Mindset – the new psychology of success, by Carol Dweck

mindsetWhy this book: I attended a workshop on high performance athleticism at the Naval Special Warfare Center and several of the coaches referred to this book and its ideas.  It seemed that most in the room had read it. I hadn’t even heard of it.  When it came time to suggest our next book for the All American Leadership Reading group,  Rob Nielsen (the CEO)  and I both proposed Mindset, and it was selected.

My impressions: In Mindset, Carol Dweck took a simple idea that the reader has certainly heard before, explained it with an extensive catalogue of vignettes in a wide variety of settings, broke the idea down into components, with implications and ramifications, backed it up with research, and convinced me to take it seriously and internalize it.  The simple and familiar idea is this:  It is better to be positive about challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, rather than to resist or avoid challenges out of fear of not excelling or fear of failure.  In most normal settings, it is better to have tried and failed, but thereby to have learned and grown, than not to have tried at all.

Carol Dweck refers to these two opposing approaches to challenge and difficulty as a “Growth mindset”  versus  a “Fixed mindset.” She gives us examples in the worlds of sports, business, school, relationships, and parenting.   The idea is important enough and her book drives it home well enough for me to recommend it.  It has already positively impacted the way I view myself, challenges I face, and the environment in which I live and work.

I felt that chapter 7, entitled: Parents teachers coaches: Where do Mindsets come from? was the most insightful.   In particular the section she writes on “praise” opened my eyes.    She points out that our “mindset” can be so shaped and influenced by how we are rewarded with praise.  She encourages parents, teachers, coaches to praise not qualities, or success or results, but primarily effort, and the willingness to take on challenge.  Praise effort and courage, not ability or success, she insists.

When only talent, ability or success are praised, the student, or child often assumes that being perceived as skilled or successful are what makes them praiseworthy, not the effort it took to get there.  Their sense of self and identity are formed around being perceived as having these abilities, and associated successes.   This assumption can lead to unwillingness to take on a tougher challenge that might put at risk the perception of ability or success.    Where success is what matters, failure, even after great effort, is not praiseworthy.  Dweck’s point is NOT that parents or leaders shouldn’t recognize success or positive results, but that praise should be primarily directed toward effort and persistence, and when they lead to a positive result, that is a nice and satisfying by-product.   By primarily praising success, leaders may inadvertently be discouraging anything that may not lead to the result or condition being praised.

Praising ability instead of effort reinforces the fixed mindset.  In one of the experiments she describes, a group of people were told that they had been selected because they were unusually intelligent, and then were given a test with some tricky questions.   Afterward, many of them misrepresented their test scores to validate the perception of being very intelligent.  She states that the experiment had “turned into liars, simply by telling them they were smart.”

Mindset argues against excuses, and for personal responsibility. The Fixed Mindset says: ” I am dealt this hand, this is my fate.”  The Growth Mindset says: “It is up to me to be as good as I can be.   The hand I’m dealt is merely a starting point.” This reminds me of the Stoic saying:  What is important is not what happens to you. What is important is what you do with what happens to you.

Mindset asks that the reader redefine success. Success = Learning, getting better, taking something away from an experience that makes you smarter, wiser, stronger, more resilient.  It reminds me of Nietzsche’s famous aphorism: That which does not kill me makes me stronger.

In many settings, there is a one word difference between the Fixed and Growth mindsets. When the Fixed Mindset faces a challenge it will often say I’m not good at this (accounting, music, climbing, math, yoga, whatever.)  The Growth Mindset person faces the same challenge and adds the word “yet.”

Carol Dweck makes the general observation that women seem to be more sensitive to criticism than men, because when they are young, they are so often praised for being cute, pretty, smart, talented, well-behaved, etc.  They may then have a tendency to build their self-image around such praise.  Boys on the other hand, are more frequently challenged and criticized, and often develop a thicker skin.  Their self-image is not as vulnerable to the criticism from others for not being smart, talented, good looking, whatever.  This is obviously a generalization, with of course many exceptions, but with perhaps some validity.  Do we praise our daughters differently and for different things than we do our sons?

Fixed vs growth mindsets have similarities to other paradigms which I list below:

Fixed Mindset                                            Growth Mindset

Risk Aversion                                                Bold action

Glass half empty                                           Glass half full

Scarcity                                                            Abundance

Consolidate our gains                                  Go for the Gusto

What’s the point?                                         What’ve we got to lose?

So much can go wrong.                               How do we make this work?

Let’s rest on our laurels                              Let’s set the bar higher

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.                       Constant improvement

Don’t bite off more than we can chew.    Fortune favors the bold.

Restrained                                                        Unleashed

Defensive                                                         Offensive

Finite                                                                 Infinite

Cautious/Prudent                                          Bold

Paralyzing Fear                                              Reckless abandon

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A criticism of her approach. Dweck admits that she simplifies the idea of mindset into the growth vs fixed dichotomy in order to make her point.  Though she says that people may have different mindsets in different aspects of their lives, (p47)  I don’t think she addresses this adequately.

My view:  Though in different settings we may have more of a growth or fixed mindset,  I believe we each have a basic set point in our personality or character on the fixed-growth mindset spectrum. Many of us may want to move our set point farther to the right, or help our charges – children, students, employees in that effort.  But there are certainly times when good judgment tells us that discretion may be the better part of valor, and that context should drive whether we should tend more to a fixed or growth mindset.  Those with perhaps too much growth mindset may dismiss fixed mindset concerns, and make decisions that have great costs to themselves and others.

I didn’t see her address the role of experience and good judgment in decision making, and a growth mindset needs to be tempered with a certain degree of practical prudence to keep from going off the rails.  Edmund Burke’s famous essay “Reflections on the Revolution in France”  argues convincingly for giving respect to tradition, custom, and behaviors that have proven successful in the past, to avoid the tragic excesses of events like the French Revolution, inspired by a growth mindset run amok.   I shared my thoughts on the tension between being bold and being prudent in my essay “A Bias for Bold Action” arguing for a bold, growth mindset, but tempered by good judgment in risk mitigation.  A person more inclined to a fixed mindset is often necessary to put the brakes on too much can-do and over-reach from the growth minded optimist.

I also think there was room for a discussion of balancing the benefits of feeling good about how hard one has tried, while still not accepting  losing.  Her point is that ideally the joy should be in the trying, the journey, not in the outcome.  Got it, but I am not willing to so readily dismiss winning as a goal, though I agree it should not be one’s ultimate goal .   Fine points perhaps- but important for leaders, coaches, parents.  I like the idea of a trophy for the winner, and a trophy for s/he, or the team which lost but showed the most ‘fire in the gut’ while  not winning.  Praising both.    But not a trophy for everyone, for showing up and trying. Come on…. That’s  un-American  🙂

There is also room for debate on the role of genetic pre-dispositions toward Fixed or Growth mindsets – there has been interesting research into how boldness or timidity may  in part (or perhaps large part) be genetically determined.

Also the recent discussion around investing in our strengths and not our weaknesses may be an argument against her thesis. Now Discover your Strengths and Strength Finder and other such books argue that we should primarily invest our energies in where we think we can succeed – in conventional terms.  Comparing that idea with Mindset would be an interesting discussion.

Some of my favorite quotes from the book.  (Numbers are page numbers in the paperback edition:)

This point is crucial: In the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. The growth Mindset allows people to value what they are doing regardless of the outcome.  48

Character grows out of mindset. 93

Mindset change is not about picking up a few pointers here and there. It’s about seeing things in a new way. 244

The fixed mindset…makes other people into judges instead of allies.  67

Becoming is better than being.  25

This is hard. This is fun.  24

Beware of success. It can knock you into a fixed mindset:  I won because I have talent. Therefore I will keep winning. 210

…challenges you at the same time you feel like you are being nurtured. 198

In the fixed mindset, effort is not a cause for pride. It is something that casts doubt upon your talent.  99

Soliciting applications for astronauts, they rejected people with pure histories of success, and instead selected people who had had significant failures and then bounced back from them.  29

When people with the fixed mindset opt for success over growth, what are they really trying to prove?  That they’re special. Even superior.  29

Failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure).  33

John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach , says you aren’t a failure until you start to blame…you can still be in the process of learning from your mistakes until you deny them.  37

Nothing is harder than saying, “I gave it my all and it wasn’t good enough.” 42

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The ONE Thing, by Gary Keller (with Jay Papasan)

The One ThingWhy this book: I was asked to speak at Mark Divine’s Unbeatable Mind Academy Retreat and chose to speak on this topic. I was inspired by that famous scene from the movie City Slickers,  and was intrigued to find that same scene inspired this book. I chose to read the book in order to augment and stimulate my ideas for my presentation. It was very useful and I did use a few things from it, but my presentation was built primarily on my own experience.
My impressions: The One Thing was quite a bit better than I thought it would be. In one way, it is a typical business leadership book, relatively short, easy to read, proposes a simple idea with numerous anecdotes to make the points, with highlighted sections for execs who are too busy to read it fully or carefully. Yes, in these respects, The One Thing does fit that mold, and it is indeed an advantage that it can be read, or skimmed in an airplane ride. That said, it explores The One Thing idea well. There are a number of ideas and perspectives that I found insightful and which were useful to me in my own thought processes, as well as in my One Thing presentation. In my own life and coaching, I’ll use a number of the ideas from this book help me understand and explain new perspectives which should lead to new behaviors.

Below are some ideas I found interesting:

– Multitasking: He debunks the myths about the advantages of multi-tasking. The more things we are trying to do at the same time, the less quality the result of our efforts in any of those endeavors. He reinforces a main theme of his book: To get the best result, focus on one-thing at a time.

– Discipline vs Habit: He argues that the need for Discipline to accomplish things we want in life is much over-blown. He argues effectively that it DOES take discipline to create a new habit – but that takes normally (depending on the habit) between 2 and 4 months. After that, it is a habit – one does it automatically. Doesn’t require any discipline or will power. How much discipline does it take to brush your teeth or take a shower every day?

– Multiple ONE Things: Yes we have multiple One Things – in different spheres in our life. But he challenges us to find our One Thing in each sphere and focus on it in that sphere. He asks, what is the most important thing – the thing upon which everything else depends? What is our One Thing in our family life? In our professional life? In our relationship with our parents? Our Spouse? Our kids? In our favorite hobby? What is the One Thing I need to do to get me closer to the really BIG One Thing I’m striving for in my life?

– The Focusing Question: He offers a great question: What is the One Thing, such that by doing that, everything else becomes easier, or unnecessary? This is a great question and it can be modified depending on the context, for example to …that everything else becomes clearer, simpler, easier to understand, etc.

– Will Power is not on “will-call:” He notes that will power is a finite resource and we use it up during the day and as we get tired. He says that, “Will power is like a fast-twitch muscle that gets tired and needs rest.” Research shows how, after a long day of decision making and dealing with stress and issues, focus is difficult. We become impatient, intolerant, and our work is of less quality. Point: Do your important work – your ‘one thing’ work when you are  fresh –don’t postpone it until the end of the day. Do your most important work when your will power is at its strongest. Do the less important stuff, or the less demanding stuff then.

– Balanced Life vs Counter-balanced life: He makes a point that I have made in a previous blog post (HYPERLINK) that successful people don’t have “balanced” lives. They are putting their primary energy into their One Thing which leads to greater success, but clearly some things have to get short shrift. He argues for what he calls the “Counter-balanced” life – one in which one gives at least some effort to areas that demand attention, in order to ‘have a life.’ You can never go too long without counter-balancing your priority work by giving some attention to these other areas – otherwise the costs can be very high (family, health, friends, integrity.)

A possible shortcoming of the book:  As I was reading The ONE Thing, I realized that he didn’t address those of us who choose to be “Pretty good” at a number of things. Many of us choose not to be really good at any one thing, but take the “renaissance man (person)” approach and choose to excel by our diversity of interests and activities.  I have written on that separately in my essay In Praise of Mediocrity, and believe that the authors might have applied the advice and ideas in The ONE Thing to those of us with many “things,” or whose ONE thing might be to be pretty good at many things.

Some good quotes out of the book:
-No one succeeds alone. No one.
-Success is built sequentially. It’s one thing at a time.
-When you get your ONE Thing, you begin to see the world differently.
-The things that are most important don’t always scream the loudest.
-A to-do list can easily lead you astray. (drives us to do things that are not important to your One Thing)
-Doing the most important thing is always the most important thing.
-Success is actually a short race – a sprint fueled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over.
-Habits require much less energy and effort to maintain than to begin.
-Success is about doing the right things, not about doing everything right.
-The reason we shouldn’t pursue balance is that the magic never happens in the middle; magic happens at the extremes.
-When you focus on what is truly important, something will always be under-served….Leaving some things undone is a necessary tradeoff for extraordinary results.
-Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. (work is the rubber ball –it bounces back. The other four are glass.)
-Life is a question. How we live it is our answer.
-The small focus question: “What is my ONE Thing right now?”
-Happiness happens on the way to fulfillment.
-Resting is as important as working.
-The most productive people, the ones who experience extraordinary results, design their days around doing their ONE Thing. Their most important appointment each day is with themselves, and they never miss it.
-Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.
-There is magic in knocking down your most important domino, day after day.
-Until my ONE Thing is done, everything else is a distraction. (The author wrote this on a sheet of paper and put it on his desk.)
-When you see mastery as a path you go down instead of a destination you arrive at, it starts to feel accessible and attainable.
-A not-so-funny thing happened on the way to extraordinary results. Untidiness. Unrest. Disarray. Disorder. … When you strive for greatness, chaos is guaranteed to show up.

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East of Eden, by John Steinbeck

East of EdenWhy this book: Selected by my reading group to be read over Christmas 2015.  Those who had already read it were enthusiastic about reading it again.  One said it was her favorite novel of all time.  I had been carrying a paperback copy around with me for decades, and had never read it. It was about time.

My impressions: This book covers a lot of territory and is truly an ambitious epic.  It begins with a family in Connecticut during the Civil War and follows two sons in their lives through the end of the 19th century.  We also get to know a young woman who is something of a sociopath, able to use her beauty to manipulate (mostly men) to get what she wants. The path of this young woman crosses that of the two brothers, and tension builds as one brother recognizes the amoral character of the woman, while the other is fully taken in by her wiles, falls in love with her and marries her. The newlyweds head out to Salinas, California, and it is there that the meat of the book begins.

The story is a revision and updated version of the Biblical story of Cain and Abel – and it runs in two generations. We see good and evil, joy and despair, sin and redemption all within a story that, although it wanders a bit, is always interesting and includes some of the most compelling characters in the literature that I’ve read.  Steinbeck takes us inside their heads and hearts to see the world from their perspectives and share in their joys and struggles.   Samuel Hamilton, the wise patriarch of the Hamilton family, somewhat wooly headed, loved and admired by all, but who claimed not to have the courage to be “great”;  Liza, Samuel’s true believing, and stern disciplinarian wife and manager of the Hamilton family and household;  Adam Trask whose life never quite finds its direction, and though confused, is a good man and one of the main characters in the book;  Lee, Adam Trasks low profile Chinese assistant who seems to be the center of wisdom and insight in the story;  Cathy Trask, the disturbed woman and conscience-less master manipulator.     And then there are the twins Caleb and Aron, the modern day and updated Cain and Abel, who we get to know as young boys and watch mature into young men.  They struggle to adapt to a world which doesn’t always make sense.  They struggle with being good and human in an imperfect world. As do we all….

The ending is surprising and provocative. Steinbeck shows how men and women are pushed around by fate and chance, but ultimately they are free and must choose, and own the consequences of their actions.

Steinbeck is a man’s man of the mid 20th century, virile, intelligent and assertive.  This book is mostly about men and how they relate to each other and seek to overcome their weaknesses and master their environment.  There are three interesting women in the book – Cathy the sociopath, Liza the stern matriarch of the Hamilton family, and Abra who we get to know toward the end of the book as a strong and independent young woman, wise beyond her years.  She seems to be Steinbeck’s ideal.

East of Eden goes to the top of my list of truly powerful books I have read that are enjoyable to read, thoughtfully written and provocative.  The characters are interesting and well developed, and the setting – early 20th century Salinas Valley California is rural west –  could have been anywhere in the West.  The context, and even the story in many ways, reminded me of Ivan Doig’s Dancing at the Rascal Fair which I read and reviewed six months ago.  In East of Eden, we are treated to some great insights about human nature and how men and women behave and interact with each other in good times and bad.  I’ve read maybe 8 of Steinbeck’s novels, and I agree with Steinbeck’s own assesssment – this is his masterpiece.

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The Song of Achilles, by Madeline MiIler

Song of AchillesWhy this book: I stumbled upon this wonderful book in the used books store at the Coronado Library. I recalled being intrigued by a review  I had read several years ago – it was published in 2012.    I have always been fascinated with Greek philosophy and the Homeric epics, and was intrigued by the idea of a condensed and novelized version of The Illiad, told from the perspective of Achilles’ close companion, Patroclus.   It is short – 360 pages– and very readable, written in modern American English very accessible to the contemporary reader.

My impressions: The Song of Achilles is built around the story of The Illiad, but includes much more – Madeline Miller creates a pre-Illiad past for Achilles and Patroclus, and includes pieces of Achilles’ story and the Trojan war that are not in The Illiad, but which are found in other sources such as The Odyssey and The Aeneid.  It is an enjoyable and interesting read – even more so, if one is familiar with the story and general themes of The Illiad.  Madeline Miller clearly knows and loves her subject – she is a classical Greek scholar who has been studying The Illiad since she was a child.

Ms Miller freely uses her creative license to make The Illiad – a testosterone-filled epic of men at war, into a love story between Patroclus and Achilles. The Song of Achilles is built around the events and context of The Illiad, but is told from the first person perspective of Patroclus,  Achilles’ closest friend and aide.  Patroclus tells us of his boyhood growing up with Achilles, and how they mature into young men, and ultimately find themselves fighting for Agamemnon’s army at Troy.

The Illiad never explicitly describes Patroclus and Achilles as lovers; in fact there are many references in The Illiad to their carnal relations with women.  However, given the culture of the time, and the nature of their close friendship described in The Illiad, most scholars accept that Homer meant to imply that they were lovers.  The relationship between Patroclus and Achilles has been debated over the centuries and in fact the issue has its own entry in Wikipedia .

In The Song of Achilles, Achilles is clearly devoted to Patroclus from the time they are boys and has no interest in women.  Patroclus is likewise completely committed to Achilles as a friend and lover.  Patroclus and Achilles are both portrayed as sensitive young men who are forced into the violence of war by fate, the wiles of Odysseus, and Achilles mother, who is almost an archetype of the cold and power-hungry mother, driven by ambition for her son.  In The Song of Achilles, as in The Illiad,  Achilles is the greatest warrior of the Greeks – Aristos Achaien.  Patroclus however is not the warrior he is in The Illiad. In The Song of Achilles he has neither the talent nor the desire to fight, preferring instead to work in the medical tent, gifted at tending to the battle injuries of those who do fight.

I enjoyed how Ms Miller portrayed the classic characters of the Greek expedition – Agamemnon, Menelaus, and Odysseus and Ajax. She also gives depth and character to Briseis, the beautiful young woman who ostensibly was the cause of the break between Agamemnon and Achilles.  In The Song of Achilles,  Briseis and Patroclus become very close, in a brother-and-sisterly way.  In The Illiad, Achilles refers to Briseis as his wife, while in The Song of Achilles, he shows no interest in her, except as a point of honor between him and Agamemnon.   Hector, Paris, Andromache, Priam, the principle Trojan players in the drama are only two dimensional players in The Song of Achilles.  Their stories are much more prominent in The Illiad.

I found Ms Miller’s treatment of the romance and affection between Patroclus and Achilles appropriately discrete and easy for me (a confirmed heterosexual), to relate to. After reading The Song of Achilles, I was inspired to take Robert Fagles’ wonderful translation of The Illiad off the shelf to read some of the most famous scenes to better understand how The Song of Achilles diverges from The Illiad in story, style, and intent.  Yes they are different – The Illiad is a story focusing on men at war; The Song of Achilles is a love story, but both describe that epic war that helped define Greek culture for centuries.  While The Illiad is wonderful in the original, Madeline Miller puts this timeless epic into a very readable and engaging story, which I strongly recommend – whether you have read The Illiad or not.

 

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Team of Teams by Stanley McChrystal

Team of TeamsWhy this book: Team of Teams continues to be talked about in many of my circles of friends.    This book is retired Army General Stanley McChrystal applying lessons he learned fighting Al Queda in Iraq to leadership in other settings.  Given that much of what I now do is translate lessons learned from my career working with elite military units into useful guidance in the private sector, I knew I would find this book of interest.

My Impressions: The bottom line of Team of Teams as I read it:  McChrystal is advocating that an organization function more as an “organism” than as a “machine.”  He advocates that a great leader behave more like a gardener than a chess master.  He advocates that interactions between teams within an organization be modeled after interaction within great teams. If that is unclear, read on.

Team of Teams is a book for a thoughtful reader – it is very content rich and provocative. McChrystal, his co-writers and the rest of his team researched the evolution of leadership and management philosophies over the last 100 years to provide a background and framework for making his case:  He argues that an organizational culture that is transparent in its goals, objectives and decision making, that shares information extensively,  that has thoughtfully and deliberately pushed decision making authority down to the lowest possible level, is much more agile, creative, and effective than organizations that are led in a traditional top-down, what McChrystal calls a “reductionist management”  manner.  He is advocating a different leadership and organizational model from that which was the hallmark of the 20th century.  Old-style leadership – focused on faster, cheaper, more efficient –  privileged cost savings and timing over quality. In today’s rapidly changing world, he says, “Adaptability, not efficiency, must become our new central competency.”

The framework for his discussion was how the best counter-terrorism force in the world was getting its butt kicked by Al Queda in Iraq because it was too slow, too traditional, too stove-piped, too control-focused in its command and control.  He likened the US military to a dinosaur struggling to get out of a tarpit.  He said that “This was not a war of planning and discipline; it was one of agility and innovation.” So, as leader of one of the primary task forces fighting Al Queda in Iraq, McChrystal threw out the book on how to run military operations, and created a very different model.

McChrystal recognized what John Boyd postulated decades ago:  If your enemy is able to Observe, Orient, Decide, and Act faster than you, you will lose. McChrystal realized that he had to get his team inside of Al Queda’s OODA loop – otherwise, no matter how good his individual operators and staff, no matter how good his intelligence, no matter how extensive his resources, he would always be reacting, always be on the defensive.  He determined that Al Queda was evolving through ongoing adaptation; with more resources and better trained people, he realized he had no option but to seek to better them at their own game.  This book is about how he did that.

This book makes many points – these are the ones that resonated most with me:

  • The best organizations seek to enculturate adaptability, teamwork, and commitment more so than individual specialization. That doesn’t say that it isn’t important to have people with specialized skill sets – it just isn’t as important as adaptability, and the willingness to subordinate individual self-interest to group goals and purpose.
  • The 20th century was very much about leaders seeking to have their organizations run like machines – efficient, predictable, and scalable. The 21st century will be about the best organizations functioning more like organisms – adaptable, self-regulating, and inter-connected.
  • He made an interesting distinction between “complicated” and “complex,” noting that traditional organizational models (including the US military) deal well with the complicated, but are poor at dealing with the complex.  Complicated: Lots of discrete pieces interacting in a predictable manner – like a machine.  Complex: the number and nature of interactions and interdependencies between components yield consequences that are unpredictable.   He argues convincingly that the world is becoming increasingly complex.
  • Leaders must develop “shared consciousness” of context and purpose within their teams. He argues that a leader’s primary responsibility is to create a culture of shared consciousness, and that this is a pre-requisite to what he calls “empowered execution” –  empowering subordinates to make and execute decisions.
  • Regarding empowerment, he emphasizes that “…simply taking off constraints is a dangerous move. It should be done only if the recipients of newfound authority have the necessary sense of perspective to act on it wisely.”
  • Developing this “shared consciousness” requires transparency and extensive information sharing – and this requires assuming risk by trusting others, way beyond what most leaders and organizations are willing to do.  This information sharing must take place within the leader’s team, and between teams in the “Team of Teams.”
  • In the organization he describes, he turns the traditional leadership model on its head. Traditionally, organizations provide their leaders with information so that the leader can make decisions. In McChrystal’s organization, the leader provides the organization with information (context, transparency, big picture perspective, commander’s intent, the “vision” ) and then empowers the organization to make decisions.
  • Throughout the book, he repeatedly stresses the importance of information sharing. It demonstrates trust, and taps into what James Surowieki has called The Wisdom of Crowds.  It brings all the minds in the organization, including those closest to the problem, to bear in solving problems and improving operations.
  • Extensive information sharing  enabled what MIT professor Sandy Pentland called “idea flow.”   Idea flow he noted, has two major determinants: “engagement” within a small group or team, and “exploration” – frequent contact with other units. “The teams that had the highest levels of internal engagement and external exploration had much higher levels of creative output….” This describes McChrystal’s Team of Teams.
  • McChrystal argued that his task was to reverse the normal results of the prisoner’s dilemma. In the classic prisoner’s dilemma, people don’t collaborate, simply because there is less risk in pursuing one’s personal self-interest. Not the case in the Team-of-Teams-world McChrystal created.
  • I loved the chapter in which he describes the leader as a gardener more than a chess master.  As gardener, the leader’s primary purpose is tending the garden, pruning, watering, even fertilizing. “The gardener cannot actually ‘grow’ tomatoes, squash, or beans – she can only foster an environement in which the plants do so….Tending the garden –creating the culture – became my primary responsibilty. Without my constantly pruning and shaping our network…our success would wither.”
  • In building his Team of Teams, he said it was a struggle to overcome tribal boundaries, where elite teams were comfortable working in parallel, but not in collaboration with each other. Through trust-building, great liaison officers, and extensive information sharing, he was able to overcome much of the traditional tension that existed between loyalty to one’s “small team,” and a loyalty to what is good for the cause, the “big team,”  the Team of Teams.

What I see as a shortcoming to the book. McChrystal makes a strong case for information sharing, developing shared consciousness and and an execution empowered team, and then ultimately, a very collaborative “Team of Teams.”  But if it works so well, why isn’t more the norm?  Because leaders are people, and I’ve seen damn few people OR leaders who are as confident, as willing to assume risk, as engaged with their people, as dedicated to a larger purpose as Stan McChrystal was.  It must also be noted that he was working with the very best of the best in the US Special Operations community -he and his team had nearly complete hire/fire authority and the the most experienced operators with the strongest reputations gravitated to his task force and its mission.  This level of selectivity is seldom available to most leaders.  Also, McChrystal wasn’t randomly selected to lead such an elite team – he was extremely well prepared and personally selected for his unique talent.   In the “real world,” we seldom find such confident, insightful, and innovative leaders, able to effectively share information to build shared consciousness, able to judge when people adequately understand the leaders perspective, and are sufficiently engaged with the purpose of the organization to be empowered with execution authority.  Will this model work for most leaders? In most organizations?  I wonder.

I recently read a pretty amazing study by Gallup  which makes the case that only 1 in 10 people have the high talent to effectively manage others, and only another 2 in 10 have functioning managerial talent. Of those 3 in 10, I wonder how many have the experience, confidence, and belief in themselves, their people and their larger purpose to assume the risk necessary to push execution authority down as McChrstal describes in Team of Teams.   I am normally an optimist, but here, I’m wondering if the bar he sets may be too high for most leaders, and most organizations.

That said, I’m really glad he provided this model that the best leaders in the best organizations can strive to achieve.

Some of my favorite quotes from the book (with page numbers, refering to the 2015 hardback edition):

“Management systems can be efficient, but not adaptable….Many of the practices that are most efficient directly limited adaptability.” 82

“Team members tackling complex environments must all grasp the team’s situation and overarching purpose.”  99

“On a team of teams, every individual does not have to have a relartionship with every other individual; instead, the relationships between the constituent teams need to resemble those between individuals on a given team.” 128

<To defeat AL Queda> “…would involve a complete reversal of the conventioanl approach to information sharing, delineation of roles, decison-making authority, and leadership.” 131

“Most organizations are more concerned with how best to control information than how best to share it.” 141

“…whatever efficiency is gained through silos is outweighed by the costs of ‘interface failures.’” 151

“We wanted to fuse generalized awareness with specialized expertise…. We dubbed this goal – this state of emergent, adaptive organizational intelligence – shared consciousness. And it became the cornerstone of our transformation.” 153

“Our standing guidance was ‘Share information until you’re afraid it’s illegal.’” 162

“We decentralized until it made us uncomfortable, and it was right there- on the brink of instability – that we found our sweet spot.” 214

”..we found that, even as speed increased and we pushed authority futher down, the quality of decisions actually went up….We had decentralized in the belief that the 70 percent solution today would be better than the 90 % solution tomorrow. But we found our estimates were backward – we were getting the 90 percent solution today instead of the 70% solution tomorrow. “ 214

“An individual who makes a decision becomes more invested in its outcome.” 215

“Experience had told me that nothing is heard until it has been said several times.” 226

“The risks of acting too slowly were higher than the risks of letting competent people make judgment calls.” 209

“We had become not a well-oiled machine, but an adaptable, complex organism, constantly twisting, turning, and learning to overwhelm our protean adversary.” 243

“Shared concisousnesss is a carefully maintained set of centralizd forums for bringing people together. Empowered excecution is a radically decentralized system for pushing authority out to the edges of the organizations.….the union of shared consciousness and empowered execution is greater than the sum of their parts. “  245

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The Martian by Andy Weir

martianWhy this book:  A couple of good friends said they had read it and really liked it.  Since I have always eanjoyed and learned from books about people struggling to survive in unforgiving environments, I figured I would enjoy this one – it certainly fits that genre!

My Impressions:  I liked the book, though I would not recommend it as “literature.”  It is written by an engineer,  and problem solvers with an engineer’s mind set will enjoy it most. It is not for those looking for emotional content or reading about someone’s inner life and development.

Our protagonist is  Mark Whatney, assigned as botanist and mechanical engineer to NASA’s Ares 3 mission to Mars.  Whatney is left on Mars after disappearing and being presumed dead, as a sudden and very violent storm forced the crew to leave immediately, or they would all die.  Obviously, Whatney regains consciousness,  and realizes that his crewmates had been forced to leave him for dead. And realizing that he is now alone and on his own, the problem solving begins.

The expedition had left an extensive amount of equipment at their station, to include a habitat and equipment to support the crew of six in what was planned to be a stay of a month or so for exploration and experimentation.  Whatney was able to live in the habitat, evaluate his situation and options, and figure out how he might be able to survive with  enough oxygen, water, heat, air pressure, and food for the several years until  another expedition might be able to rescue him. Initially he has no communications.  This is one of the problems he has to solve.  He faces mishap after mishap, one major challenge after another, and with each, he regroups, looks at his options and immediately commences problem-solving.  The book is a testament to the ingenuity of an engineer with a positive attitude

After we become acquainted with Mark Whatney and his situation, we are taken back to NASA  headquarters where we learn what is happening on planet earth after NASA realizes that Whatney is still alive.  An important part of the book is the contrast in perspectives between NASA headquarters and Whatney, and eventually the crew of Ares 3 which had left Whatney behind. The book takes us inside those three worlds – Whatney’s on Mars, NASA headquarters, and the Ares 3 space station.

The book is an amazing tutorial on the physics and practical issues associated with living in space – and Weir tells it well. I  am NOT an engineer nor a scientist, and yet I found his descriptions and practical problem solving compelling.  Weir also gave us a glimpse at crisis decision making that would make for a good leadership discussion: How the expedition leader decided to leave Whatney, NASA’s dealing with their options and priorities when discussing a rescue attempt, and the internal dynamics and decision making within the Ares 3 crew who were still in space, when they learned of Whatney’s survival.   The leadership model portrayed in this book is traditional – that of the heroic leader as expert and chess master – and to whom all look for wisdom and decision making.

What the book didn’t have was much “emotional content.”   I was over 200 pages into the book before I learned whether Whatney was gay or straight, and I never learned of any romantic interest. His connection to his parents was only briefly touched upon – and after months alone on Mars, no glimpses of an inner life.  It was as if his whole life was simply detached problem solving, with glimpses of frustration and his snarky sense of humor (which I liked.)

A couple of things Weir did that I liked – a real 21st century switching of gender roles. The Ares expedition commander was a woman and an impressive leader; the most profane and un-pc character in the book was the female Public Affairs Officer for NASA; Whatney himself was profane and un-pc, making goofy, almost immature off-hand comments that one might imagine coming from one of the techno-nerds in The Big Bang Theory.  He keeps his sense of humor throughout, even when his world is turning to kaka – but then he rapidly re-assumes his positive attitude and gets to work addressing, and solving the problem at hand, and finding a way to move forward.

Another interesting piece that Weir threw in:  The United States needed China to help them ultimately find a way to rescue Whatney, and China volunteered their help. While Whatney was stranded, the whole world was watching and rooting for him and rooting for America and her scientist-astronauts to rescue him.  The role that space exploration can play in helping us earthlings to see ourselves as one-world, was one of Weir’s not-so-subtle subthemes. But it was subtle enough -not overdone.

The day I finished the book, I went to see the movie.  It represents the book well, though the producers couldn’t help but overly-jazz up the ending, Hollywood style, and different (and less effective) than the book.   But, by and large it was faithful to the story, was well done and I recommend it.  I enjoyed both the book and the movie.

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Disrupt You! by Jay Samit

Disrupt You!Why this book:  The All American Leadership team I work with designated Disrupt You! as a book to read and discuss as part of its on-going learning.  Also Rob Nielsen, AAL’s CEO, told me that if I liked The Innovator’s DNA, I would love Disrupt You!  I did like The Innovator’s DNA, as noted in my review of it , so I looked forward to reading Disrupt You!

My impressions: Disrupt You! reinforces many of the same points and insights as The Innovator’s DNA, but in a more personal style and with even more stories and examples. It is something of an autobiography of the author Jay Samit’s life and experience as a very successful  disruptive innovator from the early 80s to the present day.  Jay was one of the founders of Linkedin and was connected in some way to many of the technological innovations of the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s that have changed the way we live.  His book is his story, and reflects insights and anecdotes from one of the most dynamic change windows our economy has ever seen. Disrupt You! includes stories of many other successful entrepreneurs who either found, or created niches in the market for new and “disruptive” products or ideas, and thereby created great value for themselves, their investors and their customers.

The first 4 chapters in the book focus on personal growth and transformation.  He describes the disruptive mindset – thinking laterally outside of conventional patterns – and how to anticipate and become part of creative disruption. The next section of the book is how to succeed as a disruptor – within a larger corporation, or within the larger market.  He provides many examples of entrepreneurs building  businesses by solving problems that others didn’t see as opportunities. One of his key messages throughout the book is that successful disruptors don’t complain about problems; what others see as a problem or annoyance, disruptors perceive as opportunities to find a better way – a solution – and in the process, create or possibly disrupt a whole market.  He offers many fascinating examples.

The last several chapters of the book take a bigger-picture look, with titles such as: “Capital Revisited,” “Disruption in the era of the Crowd,” and “Disrupt the World.”  His chapter “Disrupt the World” looks at education, human capital, energy and transportation among other fields, and shows how all these areas continue to be disrupted by creative entrepreneurs who envision new possibilities. Each section of the book offers something different – and all parts offer a multitude of examples that help make his points.

One of my favorite chapters was “Disruptors at Work and the Value of Intrapreneurship,” in which he offers examples and insights for how disruptive entrepreneurs can change an organization from within. He does note however that disruptive change agents must have ‘top cover’  to be effective, and must be willing to swim up stream, since most organizations are focused on efficiency rather than innovation, and mid-level managers hate disruption.    “An intrapreneur disrupts from within the corporation rather than waiting for the company to be attacked by external forces.”

Another one of my favorite chapters is “Design: Disruption through Aesthetics.”  When he was a young man Samit boldly emailed Bill Gates, who he had never met, asking for an introduction to David Geffen, one of the most powerful men in the music industry, so that he could pitch an idea to him.  Remarkably, Gates provided this young stranger with the introduction he requested.  When he finally met Geffen, Samit offered him  50% ownership of his company, for no money and at no risk in order to simply get his endorsing support and connections.  Geffen accepted the offer and delivered on making the connections,  which led to enormous success and profits for both of them.  Samit’s point:  Fortune favors the bold, never underestimate good luck,  and “100% of nothing is nothing, but 50% of something can be worth millions.”

A constant drumbeat within Disrupt You! is that every market, every industry, the most well-established pillars of the economy are vulnerable to disruption, and WILL be disrupted. His message – better to be a disruptor than a disruptee. And Disrupt You!  provides guidance and insight to help, if not to become a disruptor yourself, to at least better understand and appreciate the creative value of disruption.

Samit highlighted his key points throughout each chapter, making it easy for the reader to quickly gather nuggets.  Some of my favorites:

“The trouble with most entrepreneurs is that they would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”

“Insight and drive are all the skills you need. Everything else can be hired.”

“Problems are just businesses waiting for the right entrepreneur to unlock the value.”

“‘Speed to fail’ should be every entreprenuer’s motto. When you finally find the one idea that can’t be killed, go with it.”

On Intrapreneurship: “…the problem I faced back then wasn’t senior management’s not getting it, but rather my inability to communicate my vision in a context that they could comprehend.  For all disruptors, this is the most important lesson anyone can learn”

“An average idea enthusiastically embraced will go further than a genius idea no one gets.”

“What I discovered was that the trick to disrupting from within an organization is you get what you want by giving the company what it thinks it wants.”

“The adage that the master appears when the student is ready to learn is only true if you make the effort to seek out advice.”

“If your idea is truly disruptive to a market, get used to hearing the word no.”

“The right passionate team is far more important to a start-up’s success, than the right idea.”

A couple of Downsides to the book: (1)  In the structuring of the book, sometimes the chapters seem a bit artificial.  There are so many stories and vignettes I sometimes had the feeling that many of them could have gone into any chapter. The content of the book doesn’t neatly fit into the chapters he created to structure it.   (2) I don’t believe Samit gives adequate credit to the non-disruptors who are essential to run businesses, who make the economy function.  Robert Solomon in his book A Better Way to Think About Business laments that American culture glorifies the entrepreneur often at the expense of, and certainly without giving adquate credit to the hard working people in the trenches who make a business run every day.  I would have liked to have seen Samit give more acknowledgement to the support that disruptive entrepreneurs need to carry out their ingenious and creative ideas, from the many of us  who may be less bold or creative.

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The Cider House Rules, by John Irving

The Cider House RulesWhy this book: Selected by my reading group for our meeting in late November 2015. I nominated it after hearing it referred to at a memorial service. The pastor  noted Wilber Larch’s imperative to “Be of Use” in one’s life, and in how one lives in a community.  I looked into it and found that The Cider House Rules is very highly regarded and considered almost a modern American classic.

My Impressions:  I looked forward to sitting down to immerse myself in the story of this book – mostly because of the interesting characters and the choices they made in their lives – not because it was a cliff-hanger or so-called page- turner.  The setting is rural Maine in the 1930’s through 1950s.  There is  section early on which takes us back to the slums of Boston in the 1880s to provide background on one of the main characters – Dr Wilbur Larch, obstetrician and director of a small orphanage in a remote part of Maine.  Going back to his earlier period is key to understanding how Dr Larch became who he was – not only an obstetrician and orphanage director, but also an underground abortionist, performing abortions whenever requested – not for money, but on principle.  He delivers children of women who come to the orphanage, pregnant with a child they can’t or don’t want to raise, and then his orphanage would raise and nurture the child, while Dr Larch sought a family to adopt it.   He performs abortions for women who come to him pregnant within the first trimester, who don’t want to bring their child to term.  In The Cider House Rules, Dr Larch is always in the background as the conscience of the book – an imperfect, but a very rational, selfless, and principled conscience.

THE main character of the book is Homer Wells, one of Dr Larch’s orphans who is truly exceptional from early on in his childhood.  Dr Larch essentially adopts him, and  given his unusual precociousness, trains him to be his assistant, and he becomes very good as an obstetrician. As an unlicensed doctor and obstetrician, Homer is uniquely talented – Dr Larch calls him his work of art.  But Homer has a philosophical position against abortion and refuses to participate in or support Dr Larch in these operations. When as a young man, Homer leaves the orphanage with a wealthy young couple, the story takes on and challenges conventional wisdom on:  Love, work, marriage, principle, duty, honesty, compromise, WW2, loyalty, and the racism and prejudice of the day.  It is truly a multi-dimensional and great story.

One of the sub-themes in The Cider House Rules is the tension between fatalism and free will, and John Irving definitely takes a stand. One also sees the subtle interplay between life and death, birth and dying. Religion, moral theory, spirituality are not directly addressed but are clear sub-themes in the book.  Much to discuss in these areas, where principle and theory bump up against practicality.   Following one’s heart is a key message in this book, that only by doing so can one find one’s proper destiny.  Throughout this story, we see how the good life, and the good in life come from feeding and nurturing the heart.   Much more so than following the “rules” of society.

The “cider house rules,” from which the book gets its name, are rules that are posted in a dormitory where migrant workers lived during apple picking season. No one reads nor follows these rules.  In the cider house, the workers follow their own rules, driven by their own imperatives, and the posted rules have little impact.  Lots of rules are broken in the cider house, and life goes on.  In fact people break the rules sometimes in order that life can go on. There are internal and external imperatives that drive people to act and live as they do – and people choose to live by rules that work for them in their specific circumstances.  The importance of listening to and living by the rules of one’s heart is an important message of this book.  Follow your heart, he tells us.

The story rolled along very well, unique and idiosyncratic without becoming too bizarre.   But Irving didn’t develop his cast of fascinating characters as well as I would have liked. The reader can’t help but like and admire Homer Wells, but we don’t learn much about his emotional life.  We learn a bit more about Dr Larch – but sense that he almost doesn’t have an emotional life, except in his devotion to Homer, his duty,  and his work.  There are several interesting women in the book, but I felt  I never really got to know them.  Compared to how Tolstoy developed his characters in Anna Karenina, the characters in The Cider House Rules were two dimensional.  Great story, great characters, I loved reading the book – but I wanted to know these fascinating characters better.

That said, the book deserves its outstanding reputation. A few lines from the book that caught my attention:

“You think an engine is so special? I could teach you how the heart works, thought Wilbur Larch- his own heart teaching him about itself, and much more than its function as a muscle.”

“Wasn’t life in nice places shallow?” (particularly meaningful to me, living in San Diego.)

Dr Larch: “What is this fascination the world has with death?”

A quote from Jane Eyre which was read and re-read to the girls in the orphanage: “…it is madness in all women to let a secret love kindle within them, which if unreturned and unknown, must devour the life that feeds it….”

Another quote from their reading of Jane Eyre: “It is vain to say that human beings ought to be satisfied with tranquility; they must have action; and they will make it if they cannot find it.”

“….never underestimate the darker necessities of the world…”

“You can’t protect people, kiddo. All you can do is love them.”

“’History,’ wrote Dr. Larch, is composed of the smallest, almost undetected mistakes.’”

“He knew what Larch would have told him: His happiness was not the point, or that it wasn’t as important as his usefulness.”

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Out Stealing Horses, by Per Petterson

out stealing horsesWhy this book: It was recommended to me by Michael, with whom I shared a combination great bike ride and great discussion a couple of months ago. I noticed that the book got great reviews, won a number of awards, and it’s short length (238 pages in paperback) was not too daunting to take on between novels in my reading group.

My impressions: Out Stealing Horses was originally written in Norwegian – we are reading the English translation.  It is written in first person, and told by a 67 year old man who has retired and withdrawn to live out his remaining years in a rural Norwegian village.  The story focuses on a series of events he recalls from when he was  15 years old, growing up in a mountain village in Norway in 1948.  He tells of learning of mysterious and heroic roles that adults in his life had played in the Norwegian resistance to Nazi occupation in WW2.  One of those adults was his father,  who he loved and admired, and yet struggled to understand as he was coming to terms with his own budding adult-hood. His first romantic/sexual desires create a subtle but fascinating sub-theme in the confusing series of events he recounts.   Ultimately there is an unexplained violation of trust that has a powerful impact on the narrator.

He is telling us his story late in middle age, but we only learn bits and pieces of what happened in his life after the events he describes from over 50 years earlier.   It became clear to me that these boyhood events were somehow key to understanding the rest of his life and who he became.  I sensed also, that our narrator was still trying to sort it all out – and in the end, so was I – which is an important part of why this book intrigued me.

The book leaves a lot of questions unanswered and loose ends unresolved.  Though I wanted to know more, my sense is that there is a reason the author left me guessing.   Whatever happened to…?  or, Why did this happen…..?  or How/why did this person do that?  The answers to these questions may not have mattered.  At the conclusion, we are left with a story of powerful and poignant events from his boyhood in the mountains of Norway, which gave clues as to why he ultimately chose to withdraw from society and become a semi-recluse.

I believe the unanswered and unresolved questions are key to what makes this book so compelling, and why it won so many awards.

The book is very well done and enjoyable to read.  It is short,  but not fast moving.   I recommend reading it with another thoughtful reader, and after finishing the book, grab a bottle of wine and a couple of glasses and meet to discuss what Per Petterson may have been trying to say, and how this story affected you.  It’ll be an interesting discussion.

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TRIGGERS, Creating Behavior That Lasts–Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith

TriggersWhy this book: This book was selected by the team I work with – All American Leadership – to be read and discussed as a group. I am familiar with Marshall Goldsmith’s approach – have seen him speak several times, met him, read some of his other writings. And I like his approach.

My Impressions: Marshall Goldsmith offers us the practical advice he gives to his coaching clients on how to become better leaders and people.   To use his words: “One of this book’s central arguments is that our environment affects us in powerful, insidious, and mysterious ways.” Triggers discusses the interaction between who we are, and the environment in which we act, and offers simple and practical advice on how to be proactive in changing how we react to our environment. His point is that much of our behavior is driven by our responses to “triggers”- those situations and people in our environment that push our buttons, and drive us to behave the way we do.  He points out that we are often unaware of these triggers. The result is that we often impact others and our environment in ways that we either don’t intend, or are unaware of.

Triggers is a “self-help” book offering a very practical guide for changing our behavior, and in the process, improving our character.  He gives many examples of how his clients have used his approach to change their behavior and how those changes positively affected the way they think and see the world.  When his clients changed undesired or dysfunctional behavior, their improved behavior positively affected the worlds in which they lived and worked.

“My main goal in writing this book has been relatively modest: to help you achieve lasting positive change in the behavior that is most important to you.”    He says most of us need accountability measures – help from others, or from a coach – to keep us on track, and to help us determine whether we REALLY want to get better, or simply say we do.

What I like most about Triggers is that it does not allow the reader to be a victim and accepts no self-pity.   He states throughout the book that we must own our responses to whatever our environment throws at us. He effectively invokes simple Buddhist precepts in recommending acceptance of things we can’t control, while working hard to control what we can.  One is reminded of the Serenity Prayer. And of Stoicism.

A few ideas from the book, to perhaps wet your appetite:

He claims that there are two immutable “Truths” in changing our behavior:

  1.  Meaningful behavior change is hard to do.
  2.  No one can make us change unless we truly want to change.

He offers up 15 beliefs or misconceptions that get in the way of real behavioral change, to include one of my favorites: “An epiphany will suddenly change my life.”

He has a great chapter on “engagement” noting that he believes much of the data indicates that American workers are disengaged because of the way the questions upon which the data are based, are asked.  He puts a large part of the responsibility on the workers themselves. They are not “choosing” to be engaged.

Goldsmith strongly advocates “active” questions.   Rather than ask an employee “Were you engaged in your work today?” he recommends that we ask “Did you do your best to be engaged in your work today?” He notes that the second question puts much of the responsibility for engagement on the employee, not simply the management team.

He offers up six fundamental “active” questions – the cover of the book calls these “6 Questions to Kick-Start Change” – but suggests that each individual craft the questions that best fit their personal needs for growth in their own lives and work: He suggests:

Did I do my best to:

  1. Set goals today?
  2. Make progress toward my goals today?
  3. Find meaning today?
  4. Be happy today?
  5. Build positive relationships today?
  6. Be fully engaged today?

He points to the secret power of daily check-ins and self-questioning on whether we’re “doing our best” to be as good as we want to be.  He points out that if we keep falling short on a particular goal, eventually we realize that that goal is clearly not that important to us, and we will either  stop asking ourselves how we’re doing, or we will push ourselves to more effective action.

In answering these questions, he strongly recommends grading or quantifying our effort in each endeavor.  This allows us to better “structure” our effort, which he insists is essential for most of us to progress.

I enjoyed his discussion of the insidious effects of emotional and motivational “depletion” that come from the stress of managing our emotions and responses, in environments where certain behaviors are expected or demanded for us to be effective.  From my own experience running a large organization, I know that my decisions at the end of the day, or the end of the week were not as confident, compassionate, insightful, or wise as at the beginning.  “Depletion” as he describes it, is more than just being tired.

I loved his Buddhist parable of “the empty boat.” My wife and I now ask each other, when we start getting upset at something, whether we’re railing against an “empty boat.” There’s just no point in getting upset at an empty boat. Goldsmith the Buddhist, says, “It’s always an  empty boat.”

The bottom lines to Triggers:

  1. “Change doesn’t happen overnight;
  2. Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day-in and day-out;
  3. If we make the effort we get better. If we don’t we won’t.”

AND: “In order to make meaningful change in our lives, we need: commitment, motivation, self-discipline, self control, patience.

There is a lot of wisdom, and great practical advice in Triggers.  I recently told a friend/mentor about Goldsmith’s recommendations for daily questions.  My friend responded, “So, what are your daily questions?”  Hmmm…Wake up call. Ok. Time to get started, especially if I’m serious about becoming  a better person.

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